You find a guy that you like, you seem to be getting on well, you might have even wondered if there could be something more to this relationship, and then what does he do, he goes and breaks up with you. Now that wouldn't matter so much if you didn't like him as much as you do, and you're fairly sure that he likes you to, but how can you tell if a guy likes you after you have broken up?
There are some questions that you need to ask yourself before you can think about anything else. The first is, why did he dump you, was it something you did, was it something he did, or was over something stupid? Have the issues that lead to you being dumped been dealt with or are they still likely to be a problem? And then do you really want anything more to do with him? What's your attraction to this guy is it purely physical or is there something more to it, if it's just physical do you want to find yourself back in this situation a short way down the line?
Not every relationship works out for the simple reason that not every couple is compatible. This might be the natural end of your relationship. But if you think that there might still be something, then you owe it to yourself to at least try.
If he is showing signs of interest then there is a chance that he has nothing else to do and wants someone to play with until he can find someone else. Has he been seeing someone and it didn't work out, or is he still single and not showing any signs of trying to find anyone else?
If your guy has still kept the lines of communication open with you, then he still likes you. If it's a serious break up then you are highly unlikely to want anything more to do with each other. If he still wants to talk with you then at the very least he still likes you. If he doesn't want to talk to you then your relationship would be over, because without communication you have no relationship.
It doesn't take long to learn someone's schedule so your guy can be fairly certain about where you are going to be most days of the week. If he keeps turning up where you are then that is more than coincidence, that is someone who realizes that they made a big mistake in breaking up with you.
There might have been things about him that really needed improving! Is he trying to make changes to himself and his behaviour? Would he just be doing that for himself, or is he trying to impress you?
I'm guessing that he will probably know some of your friends. A great way of telling that your guy still likes you is if he talks to your friends about you, if he asks if you are dating yet, and most telling of all, how he misses you and how he wishes that you had never broken up. He knows that your friends will tell you about that conversation, and this could be him saying that I want to get back, but I afraid to ask directly in case you knock me back.
Despite all the positive signs after your break up, and despite all the friendly signs that you have been making in reply, you won't really be able to tell that he still likes you until you actually talk with him. He could be shy, or he could be nervous about asking the question, so it's possible that you might have to take the first step.
If everything looks positive, then next time he calls or just happens to be where you are (purely by coincidence of course) then try flirting with him. If he responds positively to that and starts flirting back with you then you know that he more than likes you. You could try to make him jealous by talking about other guys, but that is a high risk strategy, if you are interested in him then you need to know that you are interested in only him, and that your eyes aren't likely to wander if you get back together.
You need to talk about your break up and what went wrong. If he talks about his regret at what happened, if he talks about how things could have been if you had stayed together, then you need to steer the conversation (or you could both be dropping hints for an eternity about how you wish that you were both still together) around to the point where you can ask, is there any chance of you getting back together? If he says yes then you have a chance to build something without the mistakes of your previous relationship, if he says no, then at least you know to get on with your life.
How to tell if a guy still likes you after you have broken up? Without communication there is no relationship, so if he still wants to talk then the chances are that he is interested. He is probably regretting breaking up with you but is uncertain about how to go about it, or is worried about being knocked back. You just need to bring him in slowly and carefully. With each contact that he makes, make your responses that bit more positive. Hopefully he will realize that you are still interested in him and he will ask if you could rebuild the relationship with him. If he's being a bit slow then you might have to take the initiative. If it all works out, then you have the opportunity to build a new relationship that is stronger than the one you had before.
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